February 26, 2007

Advice For Those Who Live With Alcoholics: Part Two

Living with an alcoholic is difficult at best but there are choices you can make and steps you can take to improve the situation. None of these choices or steps will be easy and you may find yourself thinking that it is easier to just leave things the way they are. If this is what you decide you need to know that nothing will improve and your partner is unlikely to stop drinking on his/her own.

Step One:  Realize that playing the “savior” is not helping anyone. You have tried to help your addicted partner by getting him/her out of various situations that were perpetuated because of alcohol use.

You need to stop doing this immediately and let your partner take the fall for his/her behavior.

Step Two:  Find support for yourself and other family members who need it. You will have even more trouble getting through this if you do not have the support of people who have already lived through a similar situation.

Professionals or those in support groups know exactly what you are dealing with and they can help you figure out how to handle your feelings of guilt, anger and desperation.

Step Three:  Tell your partner that the living arrangements are about to change unless he/she is willing to get help immediately. You need to be prepared to follow through with this threat.

If your partner will not seek help you should not have any relationship with him/her until he/she does and recovery is in full swing and you are reassured that the behaviors have radically changed for the better.

Step Four:  Be prepared to help. Before you confront your partner you should have several treatment options ready to discuss.

Be prepared to talk to your partner about each one and be ready to answer questions about each option. If your partner is willing to go to a doctor or clinic for help you may want to agree to go to the first appointments and any other visits that are recommended.

You do need to let your partner know that the responsibility of getting better and following through on treatment is not up to you. All of that is dependent on him/her.

Step Five:  Remember that the alcoholic is responsible for his/her drinking. You are not to blame and nothing you have done has made the alcoholic drink.

Step Six:  You may want to consider your own personality to help you understand your relationship with the alcoholic. Are you a person who wants to save everyone?

Do you have a feeling of power when you think you are rescuing your partner?

Maybe you tend to feel superior, more intelligent or efficient when your partner is drinking. Make sure you are able to recognize any of these things and work to form a more healthy relationship.

It may not be easy but if you can take charge of your life and stop saving your alcoholic partner from ugly consequences you may be able to live a more positive life.

If you have a partner who is willing to seek help and stop drinking you have a chance at a healthy relationship.

Want to find more information on how to stop drinking then visit http://www.stopdrinkingadvice.org/guide/

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February 22, 2007

Advice For Those Who Live With Alcoholics

Many people choose to stay in relationships with alcoholics. It is like living in a love triangle. There is you, the alcoholic and the addiction. You will feel that you really are part of a love triangle. His/her addiction takes money, time and attention away from you and from any family you may have.

You may think of an alcoholic as a person who stumbles around the street, drunk, with a bottle in one hand and money for the next bottle in the other hand.

This is not often not the case. Many alcoholics lead fairly normal lives, at least for awhile. They are usually able to hold a job for a time and may just begin by drinking a little too much, too often.

When the addiction truly takes hold the person will absolutely deny there is a problem. Emotional closeness is no longer possible and there are many other problems as well.

There are several things that may happen in your relationship and none of them are good.

You will notice inconsistent behavior and fits of violence and fury are possible. The alcoholic is often irresponsible and can not be depended upon.

Sexual activity is usually diminished and the alcoholic may experience constant irritability. You will probably have to deal with depression and your relationship will never be stable.

If you decide to try to ignore the fact that your partner is an alcoholic you will be enabling all of these behaviors to continue. The person you love is very ill and needs help. All the understanding, love and patience in the world will not cure someone who is addicted to alcohol.

When you indulge an alcoholic the person will have no reason to change. Why would a person who is addicted to alcohol make any changes when they have someone who continues to be loving and understanding.

The alcoholic who has someone to make excuses for him/her, forgive and solve his/her problems has absolutely no motivation to stop drinking and seek help.

An alcoholic who has someone taking care of all the problems caused by the addition may tell himself/herself that he/she will wait until an appropriate moment comes along. He/she will be able to ignore the illness if a partner is covering all the bases for the addictive behaviors.

If children are part of the family the situation is even more difficult and complicated.

The children often take the back seat in the family and they do not always receive the love and attention they needed. They may grow up feeling guilty, angry, and afraid.

There are many things you can do if you are living with an alcoholic. The first part of this series gave you some ideas of things not to do and Part Two will focus on steps you can take to improve the situation.

Want to find more information on how to stop drinking then visit http://www.stopdrinkingadvice.org/guide/

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February 19, 2007

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February 14, 2007

Fighting Stress Without Using Alcohol: Part Two

In Part One of this series we explained some of the consequences of the combination of too much stress and alcohol misuse.

In this part of the series we will give you ways to fight stress without using alcohol.

Since a mixture of too much stress and the overuse of alcohol can cause physical and emotional problems we need to find other ways to deal with a life filled with stress.

If you can incorporate a healthy way of living into your daily routine you will be more successful at handling the stress without turning to alcohol.

You will need to make a commitment to finding ways to handle your stress. A half-hearted attempt will not bring the changes you are looking for and may even lead you to abusing alcohol further.

Start thinking about how much stress works for you. We all need some and each person is different.

Spend some time figuring out what stressful things are O.K. and which ones you simply can not tolerate.

After you have these things listed you will be ready to make a plan.

This plan can include ways to avoid the areas that cause you the most stress or how to make them better. If your job is an area that holds a lot of stressful moments for you on a daily basis you may need to figure out ways to reduce this stress.

Is the problem a co-worker or a boss? Is it the work itself? Once you can answer these questions you will be ready to make a few positive changes.

Maybe you are a stay-at-home parent and you love the kids dearly but your days have become so stressful that you are drinking too much, not sleeping well and angry most of the time.

Are there a few mornings a week when you could take the children to daycare so you would have time to exercise or meet friends for coffee or just take a nap. Maybe you used to run or walk every day but you can’t do these things with the kids at home.

It may be worth it to get up a little earlier each day or hire a high school student to stop over a few days a week so you can get out.

If you have been turning to alcohol because of high stress levels and you want to try a different approach consider taking one thing at a time.

Try to push all your other responsibilities out of your mind and concentrate on one task or goal at a time.

Have the most positive attitude you can. Negative thinking is not helpful when you are already stressed. Take a little time off to relax and get back on track.

Go out for a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee shop and savor every sip. Take a break in the middle of the day and head to the gym. Even a half hour is a great stress reducer.

Make some new friends. If you have been spending lots of after-work hours at the bar or drinking with friends it may be time for a change.

Find some people with whom you share interests other than drinking.

Try some of these stress-reducing ideas and you may find that you start looking forward to them and can avoid the misuse or overuse of alcohol.
 
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February 9, 2007

Fighting Stress Without Using Alcohol

Part One: Many of us have problems with stress and this can sometimes lead to the misuse of alcohol.

If you have a situation that has led you to abusing alcohol and need some ideas to reduce the stress while avoiding using alcohol, Parts One and Two of this article may help.

A little bit of stress is good but too much stress is not.  Sometimes we are so stressed out we turn to alcohol and at some point may realize we are having a problem with the overuse of it.

It may be time to think about stress and the effect it is having on you.  You may need ways to deal with your stress while staying away from alcohol.

There are many possible problems with long-term stress.  Alcohol use can intensify these problems even though the use of alcohol may seem to relax you at first.

The situation becomes difficult and even life-threatening when alcohol is used to an extreme and becomes an addition.

When you are dealing with too much stress you may find that you are having trouble sleeping.  You may develop frequent headaches even if they have never been a problem for you before.

Constipation or diarrhea can become daily occurrences and you may also notice that you don’t have the concentration you used to have. 

A person who is under a lot of stress may experience a greater level of irritability.

Mix this with a moderate or high usage of alcohol and your stress level may become even worse.  Your energy may drop off and you may feel sad at times or angry.

The use of alcohol in addition to the stress will not improve the situation.

Eating may become an issue and people often overeat and gain far too much weight or they may not be hungry, eat very little and become too thin.

People who live with too much stress can have high tension levels as well as a higher risk of asthma and arthritis flare-ups.

Depression and anxiety often accompany those who are dealing with too much stress.

When alcohol is used as a way to fix the problem other health issues may arise.  Heart problems and high blood pressure can become factors.

Irritable bowel syndrome is another possibility and alcohol consumption certainly does not help this condition.

There are many other ways to handle too much stress. As you can imagine when alcohol is used to alleviate stress the problems may only multiply.

In the second part of this series we will give you healthier ways to handle stress.  You can give up alcohol and find ways to make too much stress a thing of the past.  You will feel better and be able to live a life free of alcohol.

Want to find more information on how to stop drinking then visit http://www.stopdrinkingadvice.org/guide/

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February 7, 2007

Alcohol Rehab Facilities

Alcohol detoxification programs must be uniquely planned taking into consideration the individual’s age, severity of the problem and the duration of time needed.

Extra care and attention is required to be provided to patients. The severity and intensity of the withdrawal symptoms due to the discontinuation of alcohol depends on the usage history of the patient.

The physical and emotional symptoms may be extremely severe depending on the patient’s alcohol abuse history.

Alcohol withdrawal symptoms include sweating, rapid pulse, increased hand tremors, insomnia, nausea or vomiting, physical agitation, anxiety, auditory hallucinations, and the possibility of grand mal seizures.

Hallucinations are a very disturbing symptom of alcohol detoxification. However, it is seizures that put patients at the greatest risk of injury or death and require admission to drug rehabilitation.

Alcohol abuse is usually treated in specialized rehab facilities and mental health clinics.

Among the various alcohol rehab programs are a wide range of financial variables including levels of care and philosophical differences.

Economic impacts for alcohol abuse are costing billions each year in America. The cost and the problem are dramatically reduced through alcohol rehabilitation.

Alcohol rehab levels of care include inpatient (detox), partial hospitalization, short-term residential, long-term residential and intensive outpatient (IOP) or outpatient. Partial hospitalization or PHP is also known as partial alcohol rehab programs.

Partial alcohol rehab programs usually consist of half days of rehabilitation. Short-term can be anywhere from one to four weeks of full time treatment, while living in a freestanding facility.

Long-term care can last from one to three month or more. Wide varieties of programs are also available for outpatient treatment from a few hours to several times per week.

Medications are prescribed for alcohol detoxification. Medical monitoring is very important.

Persons with daily alcohol use are physically dependent on alcohol and may sometimes need to have a monitored daily intake of alcohol in order to ward off withdrawal symptoms.

When it comes to entering long-term recovery from an addiction, choosing the right alcohol or drug rehab facility can make all the difference. 

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February 3, 2007

Are Your Kids Drinking And Driving?

Alcohol is not difficult for kids to get. Over 50% of eighth graders said it was fairly easy or very easy to obtain alcohol.

When kids start drinking at an early age it is even more likely they will drink and drive as they get older. What can a parent do to prevent problems with alcohol and drinking and driving?

If you have alcohol in your home keep track of it. It is easy to pay little attention to the number of beers in the fridge or the level of rum in the bottle.

When you do not monitor the amount of alcohol in your home it is easier for teens to drink without you being aware of what is happening.

Do not allow kids to have parties in your home that are not chaperoned. You may find that your kids disagree with this policy and tell you that all their friends have unsupervised parties.

Stand firm with your decision and do not change your mind. Make sure your child knows what the consequences are if they break this rule.

Get to know your children’s friends. Encourage your kids to invite their friends over while you are home. Also arrange to talk to and meet the parents of your children’s friends. Many parents form support groups with other parents.

This works well because parents learn what is going on and can make decisions together about parties, curfews and consequences. There really is strength in numbers.

Know where your kids are and what they are up to. Always know who they are with and when they plan to return home. Let your kids know you want to know who they are with and where they are because you care about them not because you do not trust them.

Discuss the rules about drinking and establish consequences. Do this before they are old enough to drive. Stick to the rules early and your kids will know that you are going to follow through on the consequences.

This may eliminate problems with drinking and driving as they get older.

When establishing the consequences you need to be sure that you can stick to them and that the consequences are not too harsh.

You want to set a reasonable punishment but not one that will shut down all lines of communication. Be consistent and your child will know that you are serious about the rules and the breaking of them.

One of the best things you can do is to set a good example for your kids. They are always watching the way you use alcohol. If they see you abusing alcohol they may be more likely to do the same.

When kids watch parents drive after drinking they will think it is not a problem. Don’t make jokes about drinking or tell your kids stories about drinking while you were in high school.

When you entertain in your home make sure you provide a safe way for people to get home if they drink too much. Your child may think that drinking is a way to loosen up after a bad day or avoid problems if they see this pattern in your drinking.

There are ways to help your child avoid alcohol abuse such as drinking and driving.

Want to find more information on how to stop drinking then visit http://www.stopdrinkingadvice.org/ 

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